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Choosing to wait for sex is called abstinence. Many teens are making the choice to wait until marriage to become sexually active.

Saying no to sex now as a teen does not mean saying no forever. It does mean giving yourself a chance to accomplish your dreams and know yourself and what you want in a relationship. Choosing not to gamble with your future by having sex is one of the most important decisions you can make.

Here are ten reasons teens today have for waiting.

One: I’m not ready - yet.

  • I’ve heard too many kids say they wish they hadn’t done it afterward.
  • I want the first time to be really special - not in the backseat of a car somewhere.
  • I know what is right for me, and I’m not ready for sex and all that goes with it.
Two: I’m not ready to deal with birth control.
  • Should we use a condom? Birth control pills? Where do I go for these things? What do I do if my parents find out? I’m not ready to deal with these kinds of questions.
  • Birth control doesn’t always work … what if I still get pregnant or a sexually transmitted disease?
Three: I’m not ready to have a baby.
  • I know that if we have sex, we could have a baby - even if we used birth control.
  • I’m not ready to raise a child … change diapers, walk a crying baby at 2AM, give up all my free time, work and go to school and try to raise a child.
  • I don’t want to have to think about getting an abortion or putting the baby up for adoption or how I am going to tell my parents
Four: My relationship isn’t ready.
  • If we start having sex it will become the focus of everything we do. I still want to hang out with friends and go to the movies.
  • I know that having sex will not make someone love me or stay with me.
  • I haven’t found the right person.
  • If we start having sex our relationship will change.
  • What if my boyfriend or girlfriend brags about having sex with me … it will ruin my reputation. I will never know if someone is dating me for me … or for what they think they can get.
Five: I don’t want to get an STD.
  • I don’t want chlamydia, herpes or any other sexually transmitted disease.
  • I might not be able to tell if my partner is infected and it’s hard to ask.
  • I’m too young to die from AIDS or spend the rest of my life on medication for a disease I could have prevented.
Six: I’m not willing to risk HIV.
  • Many people in their 20’s with AIDS were infected in their teens. I could get infected now and not even know it.
  • There is no such thing as "safe sex". Using a condom only makes sex "safer". Do I want to take the chance if having sex could mean my life.
Seven: I want to wait until I’m older.
  • When I’m older I will have had a chance to achieve my goals like college, travel, and building a career - having a baby now could change all of that.
  • When I’m older I’ll know more about myself and what I want in a relationship.
  • When I’m older I won’t have to worry about my parents finding out I’m having sex.
Eight: I want to wait until I’m married.
  • I want to wait for that special person who I plan to spend my life with.
  • It’s against my values and religion to have sex outside of marriage.
Nine: It’s my decision to wait.
  • I am old enough to make decisions that affect my life.
  • Even though lots of teens say they are having sex, I don’t have to do it until I’m ready.
  • Even if my girlfriend or boyfriend wants to have sex, I can still say no.
Ten: Everyone is not doing it.
  • I have the right to say no and do what is best for me!
  • Over 50 percent of teens are still virgins when they turn 17.
  • I know I’m not the only one deciding to wait.
  • I want to be proud of me and my decisions.
Taken in part from Sex: Ten Best Reasons to Wait published by Journeyworks Publishing